Relationships aren’t just the fabric of society, they define us as human beings. And while all relationships are crucial to happiness, it’s our intimate partnerships that most directly shape us, nourish us, and challenge us to grow. Here, we experience our greatest joys and endure our most painful sorrows.

Our culture says that relationships should naturally be full of good feelings and harmony, and when they’re not, something’s wrong. Someone’s to blame. Either your partner’s “not the one” or you are somehow “not doing it right.”

But we all know the truth: Relationships are gloriously messy. Messiness is, in fact, the norm. Love, fun, compatibility, and affection co-exist with distrust, doubt, anger, and power struggles. Together recognizes the realities of an intimate relationship, and gives you skills to help weather the necessary challenges that are actually the building blocks to intimacy. We believe that:

  • Amazing partnerships are a matter of skill, not luck.
  • People are willing to do “the work” of relationships but often don’t have a solid idea of what “the work” is. We’ll show you.
  • In relationships, pain often comes from the gap between expectations and reality. We offer realistic expectations and high doses of reality.

When it comes to relationships, romance, and sex, there are women’s sites and there are men’s sites. Together stands in the common ground. It’s for women and men, written by women and men, and it features the stories of women and men. Together.

Who We Are

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Erik Newton

Podcaster and Founder

As a former family law attorney, Erik describes himself as someone who’s “been through a thousand divorces and still believes in love.” Ushering couples through divorce wasn’t easy for Erik, a romantic from birth, but it turned out to be the ideal medium through which to understand the entire life cycle of a relationship. As a result, Erik has a unique, real-world comprehension of what makes one marriage thrive and another fall apart.

During his time as an attorney, Erik racked up a few accolades: He founded a successful law journal, built the largest and fastest-growing family law firm in the Bay Area, was named a Super Lawyer three years running, and garnered a 10-star Avvo rating. He also teamed up with a psychologist friend to lead premarital courses for couples, hoping to give them the skills they’d need to stay out of his office. Ultimately, his calling to help couples build healthy relationships superseded his legal career, and he decided to dedicate himself full-time to creating a place couples could go for information, inspiration, and a big dose of truth. That’s when Together was born.

Erik lives in San Francisco with his fiancé, Aubrie. After three years of amazing vacations, silly fights, gushy displays of affection, and pet vomit, they’re more passionate than when they met, and going deeper daily. It’s hard work, but good work. Erik also volunteers as a marriage commissioner at San Francisco City Hall and has had the honor of marrying more than 180 couples.

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Robin Rinaldi

Consulting Editor

Robin is a journalist and author with an ongoing focus on love, sex, and psychology. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, Oprah Magazine, Yoga Journal, and others. She is the author of the 2015 memoir The Wild Oats Project (Farrar, Straus, & Giroux), which has been published in 12 countries and eight languages. She was formerly the executive editor of 7×7 magazine in San Francisco, where she wrote a relationship advice column, and an award-winning food columnist for Philadelphia Weekly. Robin’s other books include two references on dance and a travel guide to San Francisco. She has been featured on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, Dr. Drew, and BBC Radio, among others.

As a journalist, Robin has covered subjects as mainstream as women’s health, urban dating scenes, and romantic getaways, and as unconventional as cuddle parties and porn startups. In her personal life, she’s studied imago therapy, attachment theory, 12-step philosophy, neo-tantra, orgasmic meditation, and women’s embodiment practices. Robin is interested in how modern couples consciously define their relationships, and how feminism impacts those choices. She lives in Los Angeles with her longtime boyfriend and silky terrier.

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Charlene Goto

Show Producer

Charlene, a Bay Area native, is a seasoned radio producer who began her career on CBS Radio’s top-rated “The Sarah & Vinnie Morning Show” in San Francisco. She then took the role of San Francisco affiliate producer for “The Howard Stern Show” on Live105 FM, and then became the co-producer of “The Sarah & No Name Show,” as well as programming coordinator for Alice@97.3.

In 2008, she moved on to work with Westwood One & Metro Networks (Now iHeartMedia’s Total Traffic Network) as a news and traffic producer for morning drive, covering Northern California. In 2012, she worked with The RadioSlot Media Network, serving as executive producer of programming and co-network director. She helped to launch RadioSlot Productions, developing new programming, talent and events. Most recently, she served as the executive producer for the nationally syndicated radio program “The Straight Male Friend Show with Marcus Osborne & Friends.” then co-founded the digital media company Breathe Entertainment. There she served as VP of programming, managing hosts and developing new content and talent for the digital station known as Breathe Radio. Currently, she’s a consulting producer for SiriusXM Satellite Radio and also the founder and CEO of her own production company, Go-To Productions. There, she works with a wide variety of clients producing and developing content for radio shows, podcasts, video shows and live events.

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Aubrie Pick

Head of Creative

Aubrie Pick is a food and lifestyle photographer whose work takes her around the world. Her clients include Williams Sonoma, Blue Bottle Coffee, and Bon Appétit and she has shot upcoming cookbooks for Luisa Weiss, Charlotte Druckman, and star chef Guy Fieri. You can also find Aubrie’s photographs in Chrissy Teigen’s new cookbook Cravings: Recipes for All the Food You Want to Eat. When she’s not behind the camera, she can be found tooling around her hometown of San Francisco with her scruffy dog and equally scruffy fiance (see Erik Newton, above), perfecting her spicy tandoori chicken soup, and plotting her next road trip.

Cortney Munna

Cortney Munna

Digital Director

Cortney is a Los Angeles-based producer and web designer. She spends her days producing photo shoots, her nights editing photos, and her weekends building websites. In between, she’s likely to be found in her garden, at the ceramics studio, or hanging out with her boyfriend and their ever-changing household of foster cats.


Ellyn Bader, Ph.D.

Since the early 1980s, Dr. Ellyn Bader has specialized in helping couples transform their relationships. Considered by many to be the preeminent expert in couples therapy training, Ellyn and her husband, Dr. Peter Pearson, are creators of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy and directors of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California. Ellyn and Pete are pioneers in the field, being among the first to specialize in it. They literally “wrote the book” on the subject. Their textbook, In Quest of the Mythical Mate, is used in graduate training programs across the country and is in its 16th printing.

Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

For more than 27 years, Dr. Peter Pearson has specialized in helping couples transform their relationships. He and his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader are pioneers in the field of couples therapy, creating The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy and founding The Couples Institute long before couples therapy was recognized as a specialty. As a therapist, workshop leader, author, and speaker, Pete is dedicated to helping couples create extraordinary relationships. He and his wife have been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including The Today Show and CBS Early Morning News.

Anne Katrin Gillespie, Ph.D.

Katrin Gillespie is a psychologist who travels the world, looking around every corner and under every rock to answer the big questions: What gives life meaning? What is marriage? How do we become our best for each other? At home in San Diego, she has great passion for her private practice, clinical research, and for her husband of nearly 30 years. When she is not seeing clients, leading workshops, researching, writing or traveling, Katrin can be found deeply engaged in conversation, renovating properties, advocating humanitarian efforts, and hanging out in her Japanese garden with her dogs.

Christian Yavorsky, Ph.D.

Dr. Christian Yavorsky is a psychologist by nature and occupation, a mechanic and explorer by birth and circumstance, and an efficient cook by necessity. His diverse training has taken him from emergency psychiatric admissions to academic psychology to harm-reduction efforts for dual diagnosis patients in Western Siberia. He currently works in patient safety and risk assessment for people involved in clinical trials. He sees his role at Together as in-house geek who can translate fancy clinical jargon into concepts that regular people can use to improve their relationships.