3 Stages of Relationship

It’s all your fault, then it’s all my responsibility, then we’re both just imperfect humans.

When Traumas Collide

On the surface we looked like a talkative wife and silent husband. Underneath, ghosts were at war.

Don’t Analyze This

When you get scared, your mind starts frantically telling old stories. Don’t listen to them.

Dinnertime Blues

You think you and your husband are compatible. Then you have a kid and try to feed him.

One-Night Chat

On a Friday night in LA, two strangers finally figure out the secret to lasting love.

Turn Up the Heat

It’s not about flowers or fancy dinners. It’s about magnifying your own sensual energy and inviting your partner into that space.

The Co-Sleeping Challenge

Attaching to baby often means distancing from your spouse. Here’s how to stay connected as a couple.

Games People Play

Look beneath the role you tend to play in relationship, then beneath that, and so on, until you see the hilarity of it all.

Go Ahead, Go to Bed Angry

Whoever said couples should solve every argument before bed? Sleep on it and you may forget the fight altogether.

Are You a Gaslighter?

There’s a very clear line between disagreeing with your partner and emotionally abusing her.

Want the One You’re With

We crave long-term relationships but we also want to re-experience that first wave of passion. Here’s how to crush on the one you love.

The Spiral of Trust

Fear kept private builds on itself, but share your fears and watch trust grow.

The Physics of Love

In the natural world, the strongest elements know how to bend and not break. Do you?

The Junk in His Trunk

Yes, his collection of Game of Thrones figurines is super-weird, but if you love him, make room for it.

The Secret to Compromise

Instead of giving in, butting heads, or walking away, figure out that one specific thing you are so unwilling to let go of.

Why I Do the Laundry

Wives spend four times more hours doing laundry than their husbands. Not in my house, they don’t.

Why We Cheat

At root, cheating is usually not about our current relationship or a shiny new lover. It’s about our self-image.

The Beauty of Anger

The emotion we most fear is the one we need to let ourselves feel. The key is doing it safely—and alone.

The 4-Word Fight Ender

The surprisingly simple question that can turn an argument into a constructive discussion.

It’s Not What You Say

When words get in the way, use your intuition and your body to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level.

How Mindfulness Killed My Sex Life

The spiritual path will burn away all illusions, including the sexual kind. The good news is that something better is reborn in the ashes.

A Soft Place to Fall

A new baby, around-the-clock feedings, sleep deprivation, a tight budget—and a gift that will never be forgotten.

How to Fight Fair

Stay focused, avoid extreme statements, lay off the character assaults, and remember the toothpaste.

Some Like It Vulnerable

Want to rock his or her world? Start with opening up to your raw, tender truth and paying full attention to each moment.

What’s Your Fighting Style?

The way you start a fight says a lot about your relationship’s future, so when you come out swinging, keep it clean.

Little Lies, Big Damage

It’s the small daily omissions that erode a relationship. How I finally learned to show up  and tell the truth.

Claim Your Queer

Let’s face it—everyone wants something a little weird now and then.

The Foursome

In my open marriage, feelings of jealousy and rejection emerge in unexpected places, and point the way toward growth.

The Moment It Breaks

A stunted maternal instinct. A long-dormant sexual awakening. A nascent midlife crisis. You might call it the perfect storm.

A Polyamorist View of Monogamy

We think of monogamy as natural, but it’s actually quite advanced—the trouble is we default to it out of fear instead of choosing it consciously.

The Benefits of Hashing It Out

It’s not the most fun way to spend an evening, but the data is clear: Couples who argue are better off than those who never rock the boat.

6 Epic Gestures of Romance

Need some inspiration? Check out these champions of romance and the grand gestures that won their beloveds’ hearts.