On an idyllic weekend getaway, I learn once again that happiness can’t be planned.
On an idyllic weekend getaway, I learn once again that happiness can’t be planned.
My husband wants Beverly D’Angelo, in her prime. But he’ll have to settle for me.
I wanted the tradition of taking my husband’s name. I didn’t foresee the heartbreak.
The challenge of making rational decisions in an emotional world.
Staring at a future I never dreamed of, eating everything in sight.
It’s all your fault, then it’s all my responsibility, then we’re both just imperfect humans.
Charming towns, towering waterfalls, ancient volcanoes, and the Northern Lights.
The great secret no one ever tells us: Sexual empowerment equals life empowerment.
I thought I knew everything about relationships. Then she handed me a quiz.
You can be lazy or adventurous in picturesque upstate New York.
He wants to party, she wants to read. Fear not: You can still have fun.
I saw firsthand how those who learn from divorce enjoy amazing dating lives.
Your relationship isn’t boring, your routine is. These four trips will break the rut big-time.
I used to resist the transition from euphoria to real love. No more.
Four ways to connect without binging on the big screen.
Breaking down the labels and creating a relationship that works for you.
How biology, evolution, and cultural training conspire against smooth communication.
For Six Months, We Had to Find Other Ways to Connect
This Thanksgiving, make the leap from “thanks” to deep, true appreciation.
Where to limit public displays of affection, and where to let loose.
Traditional monogamy doesn’t work for me, but neither does polyamory.
He likes the countryside, she likes the city. How to have fun anyway.
No more worrying about pregnancy, infertility, miscarriages, or what-ifs.
The most epic spots in a land of more than 7,000 isles.
Partnering up is a matter of dumb luck. Sooner or later, your luck will turn.
What I learned circling the globe with my new husband.
Wisdom about love is everywhere, not just in the self-help section.
A few hundred miles from San Francisco, a sky full of stars awaits.
The noonday demon weighs a marriage down, but it can also build strength.
Where to stay, spa, eat, and drink in the country’s premier wine region.
My fiancé was never taught to feel, communicate, or apologize. Now we’re learning together.
I’d rather date a stable, happy couple than a series of Tinder f*ckboys. And I’m not alone.
Food is romantic. Fall is romantic. Time to go to Boston.
On the surface we looked like a talkative wife and silent husband. Underneath, ghosts were at war.
How Couples Can Make It Through the Most Turbulent Time of the Month
Sometimes the most romantic plans don’t succeed until they fail.
It took me a long time to learn that female orgasm is both straightforward and varied.
Lasting love depends just as much on on what you do as who you’ve chosen.
The great outdoors nurtures romance and connection—if you’re prepared.
When you get scared, your mind starts frantically telling old stories. Don’t listen to them.
Hate results from a powerful combination of two awful feelings.
No invitations, no menus, no guests, no hassle. Just us and paradise.
A whole list of disasters blew two years of planning—and showed me what mattered.
I didn’t get the importance of laughter until I was flat on the floor.
I didn’t realize how much I loved my husband until he walked straight into the grief with me.
5 Pieces of Inspiration to Keep You Out of Divorce Court
Here’s what to do when you fall apart, or your partner does.
Managing money, sex, kids, time, work, and play—and what you post on social media.
You think you and your husband are compatible. Then you have a kid and try to feed him.
Stay in view of your partner, but keep to your own path.
What 1,000 divorces taught me about the truths underlying marriage.
It took a while but I’ve learned to gather some wisdom from the ruins.
How to really commit, and what you can do to create a good foundation.
Despite our best efforts to steer and control it, love is a shape-shifter.
The Babymoon Ended When My Husband Starting Telling Me How to Mother
It’s tempting, and dangerous, to throw your entire identity into parenthood.
Brush up on your lingo, monogamists. We’re talking two very different things.
Mining the existential truths and emotional skills of the poly set.
My girlfriend set me free to see other women—on one condition.
You don’t need luck to enjoy a passionate, mutually reverent marriage. You need some fierce, wild love.
Loving a man who cannot stay has taught me more than I ever imagined.
Marrying young means changing fast while trying to stay together.
If you married your high-school or college sweetheart, keep in mind these challenges and strategies.
Judging a relationship by the fruit it bears instead of the years it lasts.
You can’t just blame your partner and walk away from crazy. You have to change.
How we co-create solutions instead of fighting to each get our own way.
Thinking of leaving out a mistake from your past or a few current dreams? Don’t.
On a Friday night in LA, two strangers finally figure out the secret to lasting love.
Silence, conflicts, sexual disconnection—nothing is as dangerous as this emotion.
It took “I don’t respect you” to realize my impact.
If you want to know how to do marriage, ask the people who’ve been doing it for decades.
It’s not about flowers or fancy dinners. It’s about magnifying your own sensual energy and inviting your partner into that space.
An arrow to the heart and a challenge to make a tacky little kimono my bitch.
Attaching to baby often means distancing from your spouse. Here’s how to stay connected as a couple.
Of Clomid, tedious sex, secret resentments, and unresolved longing.
Look beneath the role you tend to play in relationship, then beneath that, and so on, until you see the hilarity of it all.
Instead of watching rom-coms that end just as the couple exchanges vows, I’m celebrating lovers that make it through the long haul.
Whoever said couples should solve every argument before bed? Sleep on it and you may forget the fight altogether.
Marriage goes far beyond spouse and children. Your family, friends, and entire community have a stake.
There’s a very clear line between disagreeing with your partner and emotionally abusing her.
If you’re a monogamist who loves a non-monogamist, there are three things you need to know.
How to figure out what you really want, and communicate it to your partner, before resentment sets in.
We crave long-term relationships but we also want to re-experience that first wave of passion. Here’s how to crush on the one you love.
Fear kept private builds on itself, but share your fears and watch trust grow.
Witnessing and containing a lover’s anger is rare gift few can give, but the potential for healing is remarkable.
Celebrate another year with realistic expectations, stored-away smartphones, and no selfies.
In the natural world, the strongest elements know how to bend and not break. Do you?
Heartache is natural. Blaming and drama are unnecessary. How one woman learned to let go with love.
Yes, his collection of Game of Thrones figurines is super-weird, but if you love him, make room for it.
Taking on extra responsibility makes you no better than anyone else. Do it out of love or skip it.
Learn to fall in love with life itself, and watch your relationship blossom.
How I learned to share the woman I love with another guy.
Hope versus doubt, or the conundrum of cognitive dissonance for the engaged couple.
Instead of giving in, butting heads, or walking away, figure out that one specific thing you are so unwilling to let go of.
Things not going so well at home? Then whatever you do, don’t have a kid.
Wives spend four times more hours doing laundry than their husbands. Not in my house, they don’t.
Your new spouse isn’t your ex, but that can be hard to remember while living in the shadow of an unhappy marriage.
At root, cheating is usually not about our current relationship or a shiny new lover. It’s about our self-image.
It’s not your birthday or even your bank balance. If you want it to last, keep your credit score high.
There’s a reason we say “in sickness and in health” on our wedding day.
The emotion we most fear is the one we need to let ourselves feel. The key is doing it safely—and alone.
The surprisingly simple question that can turn an argument into a constructive discussion.
When words get in the way, use your intuition and your body to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level.
The spiritual path will burn away all illusions, including the sexual kind. The good news is that something better is reborn in the ashes.
Overwrought? Put-upon? Carrying a too-heavy load? The sooner you stop, the better off everyone will be.
A new baby, around-the-clock feedings, sleep deprivation, a tight budget—and a gift that will never be forgotten.
Stay focused, avoid extreme statements, lay off the character assaults, and remember the toothpaste.
Want to rock his or her world? Start with opening up to your raw, tender truth and paying full attention to each moment.
My youth was all bravado and bedpost notches, but it took love to show me the true power of sex.
If you want to stay married, look out for these four common behaviors and replace them right quick.
Studies are beginning to prove what we already know—smartphone obsession is a relationship killer.
Do you sometimes doubt your love? Great, that means you have a functioning brain.
The way you start a fight says a lot about your relationship’s future, so when you come out swinging, keep it clean.
Beneath the fear, rage, and insecurity lies your pure animal hunger for you lover. Why not use it?
It’s the small daily omissions that erode a relationship. How I finally learned to show up and tell the truth.
The waxing and waning is not cause for alarm, compatibility is key, and the possibilities are endless.
It’s a great way for couples to share fantasies, test out new ways of having sex, and spice things up.
Post this on your fridge. Walk to fridge during your next fight. Follow the directions.
Let’s face it—everyone wants something a little weird now and then.
In my open marriage, feelings of jealousy and rejection emerge in unexpected places, and point the way toward growth.
If you want to stay together, remember this equation: Five good things for every bad one.
Stop dissecting the drama, and instead look forward and get playful about the future you want to create.
Beneath the provoking, accusing, defending, and yelling lies an instinct telling you, “Be afraid. Be very, very afraid.”
A stunted maternal instinct. A long-dormant sexual awakening. A nascent midlife crisis. You might call it the perfect storm.
You’re giving up a lot to be in this one particular relationship. But guess what? So is your partner.
The first step to better relationships is disengaging from the bully in your own mind.
The better your boundaries, the freer you are to care for yourself and truly love your partner.
Simply saying you’re sorry isn’t enough. If you really regret your actions, take the time to do it right.
Who says you have to consummate your desire, or even know your Valentine’s name for that matter?
We think of monogamy as natural, but it’s actually quite advanced—the trouble is we default to it out of fear instead of choosing it consciously.
It’s not the most fun way to spend an evening, but the data is clear: Couples who argue are better off than those who never rock the boat.
If you want to really know (and love) someone, you have to learn to fight with them. Right?
The phantom image that comes between you and your partner-—your fantasy mate—is actually the cause of your pain.
Need some inspiration? Check out these champions of romance and the grand gestures that won their beloveds’ hearts.
We all want to avoid it, but when we do, we miss out on the perfect opportunity to get closer to our partner.
Step away from the chocolate and invest in these zero-calorie ways to show your affection.
Head away from the crowds and to these unpretentious small (and large) towns for something different.
True stories and honest advice, because it’s time to get real about relationships.