The challenge of making rational decisions in an emotional world.
The challenge of making rational decisions in an emotional world.
It’s all your fault, then it’s all my responsibility, then we’re both just imperfect humans.
I thought I knew everything about relationships. Then she handed me a quiz.
He wants to party, she wants to read. Fear not: You can still have fun.
I saw firsthand how those who learn from divorce enjoy amazing dating lives.
Four ways to connect without binging on the big screen.
Breaking down the labels and creating a relationship that works for you.
How biology, evolution, and cultural training conspire against smooth communication.
This Thanksgiving, make the leap from “thanks” to deep, true appreciation.
Where to limit public displays of affection, and where to let loose.
He likes the countryside, she likes the city. How to have fun anyway.
Partnering up is a matter of dumb luck. Sooner or later, your luck will turn.
What I learned circling the globe with my new husband.
Wisdom about love is everywhere, not just in the self-help section.
Where to stay, spa, eat, and drink in the country’s premier wine region.
My fiancé was never taught to feel, communicate, or apologize. Now we’re learning together.
Food is romantic. Fall is romantic. Time to go to Boston.
Lasting love depends just as much on on what you do as who you’ve chosen.
The great outdoors nurtures romance and connection—if you’re prepared.
When you get scared, your mind starts frantically telling old stories. Don’t listen to them.
Hate results from a powerful combination of two awful feelings.
5 Pieces of Inspiration to Keep You Out of Divorce Court
Here’s what to do when you fall apart, or your partner does.
Managing money, sex, kids, time, work, and play—and what you post on social media.
Stay in view of your partner, but keep to your own path.
What 1,000 divorces taught me about the truths underlying marriage.
How to really commit, and what you can do to create a good foundation.
Mining the existential truths and emotional skills of the poly set.
You don’t need luck to enjoy a passionate, mutually reverent marriage. You need some fierce, wild love.
Loving a man who cannot stay has taught me more than I ever imagined.
If you married your high-school or college sweetheart, keep in mind these challenges and strategies.
Judging a relationship by the fruit it bears instead of the years it lasts.
How we co-create solutions instead of fighting to each get our own way.
Thinking of leaving out a mistake from your past or a few current dreams? Don’t.
Silence, conflicts, sexual disconnection—nothing is as dangerous as this emotion.
If you want to know how to do marriage, ask the people who’ve been doing it for decades.
It’s not about flowers or fancy dinners. It’s about magnifying your own sensual energy and inviting your partner into that space.
Attaching to baby often means distancing from your spouse. Here’s how to stay connected as a couple.
Look beneath the role you tend to play in relationship, then beneath that, and so on, until you see the hilarity of it all.
Whoever said couples should solve every argument before bed? Sleep on it and you may forget the fight altogether.
Marriage goes far beyond spouse and children. Your family, friends, and entire community have a stake.
There’s a very clear line between disagreeing with your partner and emotionally abusing her.
If you’re a monogamist who loves a non-monogamist, there are three things you need to know.
How to figure out what you really want, and communicate it to your partner, before resentment sets in.
We crave long-term relationships but we also want to re-experience that first wave of passion. Here’s how to crush on the one you love.
Fear kept private builds on itself, but share your fears and watch trust grow.
Witnessing and containing a lover’s anger is rare gift few can give, but the potential for healing is remarkable.
Celebrate another year with realistic expectations, stored-away smartphones, and no selfies.
In the natural world, the strongest elements know how to bend and not break. Do you?
Yes, his collection of Game of Thrones figurines is super-weird, but if you love him, make room for it.
Taking on extra responsibility makes you no better than anyone else. Do it out of love or skip it.
Learn to fall in love with life itself, and watch your relationship blossom.
Hope versus doubt, or the conundrum of cognitive dissonance for the engaged couple.
Instead of giving in, butting heads, or walking away, figure out that one specific thing you are so unwilling to let go of.
Things not going so well at home? Then whatever you do, don’t have a kid.
Your new spouse isn’t your ex, but that can be hard to remember while living in the shadow of an unhappy marriage.
At root, cheating is usually not about our current relationship or a shiny new lover. It’s about our self-image.
It’s not your birthday or even your bank balance. If you want it to last, keep your credit score high.
The emotion we most fear is the one we need to let ourselves feel. The key is doing it safely—and alone.
The surprisingly simple question that can turn an argument into a constructive discussion.
When words get in the way, use your intuition and your body to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level.
Overwrought? Put-upon? Carrying a too-heavy load? The sooner you stop, the better off everyone will be.
Stay focused, avoid extreme statements, lay off the character assaults, and remember the toothpaste.
Want to rock his or her world? Start with opening up to your raw, tender truth and paying full attention to each moment.
If you want to stay married, look out for these four common behaviors and replace them right quick.
Studies are beginning to prove what we already know—smartphone obsession is a relationship killer.
Do you sometimes doubt your love? Great, that means you have a functioning brain.
The way you start a fight says a lot about your relationship’s future, so when you come out swinging, keep it clean.
Beneath the fear, rage, and insecurity lies your pure animal hunger for you lover. Why not use it?
It’s a great way for couples to share fantasies, test out new ways of having sex, and spice things up.
Post this on your fridge. Walk to fridge during your next fight. Follow the directions.
Let’s face it—everyone wants something a little weird now and then.
If you want to stay together, remember this equation: Five good things for every bad one.
Stop dissecting the drama, and instead look forward and get playful about the future you want to create.
You’re giving up a lot to be in this one particular relationship. But guess what? So is your partner.
The first step to better relationships is disengaging from the bully in your own mind.
The better your boundaries, the freer you are to care for yourself and truly love your partner.
We think of monogamy as natural, but it’s actually quite advanced—the trouble is we default to it out of fear instead of choosing it consciously.
The phantom image that comes between you and your partner-—your fantasy mate—is actually the cause of your pain.
True stories and honest advice, because it’s time to get real about relationships.