Amy and Matt

Every Man Has One Golden Arrow

Every Man Has One Golden Arrow: Amy and Matt

Today’s episode is about absolute dedication, and it’s very romantic.

If you’ve listened to the show before, you know that I often begin interviews by asking how my guests met. But I like to get past all that so we can explore the challenges that couples face. My view is that we have plenty of happily-ever-after romance stories in our culture, and we really don’t need any more of those.

But then I interviewed Amy and Matt. Now I’m not saying this is a happily-ever-after story. These two have their challenges like anyone, and in fact, the second hour of this interview was all about those challenges. But the story of how these two met and fell in love is so touching that I couldn’t resist posting an episode about their early romance.

If you want to hear about challenges, I’m posting the second half of the interview for Patreon subscribers of $2 or more, and you can find that at

I’m also excited to say that we’re posting Part 2 of our interview with Dr. Helen Fisher later this week. In Part 1 of that interview, we talked about the biological underpinnings of our experience of love, and in Part 2, we get into Dr. Fisher’s advice for singles.

That episode and this one were both made possible by Super-big thanks to Match for their sponsorship. If you would like to take advantage of the exclusive offer they’re providing our listeners—seven days free to try their site—just go to

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  • Diane Taylor
    Posted at 10:58h, 02 March Reply

    This episode DOES build but it sags a LOT and felt like a frustrating focus on minutiae. I feel like there was a lost opportunity in the courting of Amy by Matt. I think it was dismissed as “minecraft (or mind craft) but, in my opinion it was beautiful. He talked a little about not pushing for something to happen in the moment but was building a long term trust. That’s essentially man/woman dynamics and a very masculine and gentlemanly way to be. He wasn’t so focused on his own needs. He did not push her beyond where she is. He was paying attention and being present with her. This builds trust and made her feel safe. So delving into that would have been interesting./ The bagel story is funny and sweet and it would have been nice to hear from Amy what that meant to her emotionally. / Timeline of their courtship is confusing – I’m not sure it matters though I think the emphasis of this episode is about the long winding courtship, so maybe it does.

    • Erik Newton
      Posted at 12:15h, 02 March Reply


      Thanks for listening. Those are very legit criticisms of the interview. I wonder if you’ve listened to the bonus episode on Patreon? We didn’t post it because it’s even more nonlinear. That said, the content is deeper and richer regarding processing challenges. It might provide some more context for you.


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