When Traumas Collide

On the surface we looked like a talkative wife and silent husband. Underneath, ghosts were at war.

Go Ahead, Go to Bed Angry

Whoever said couples should solve every argument before bed? Sleep on it and you may forget the fight altogether.

The Spiral of Trust

Fear kept private builds on itself, but share your fears and watch trust grow.

The Physics of Love

In the natural world, the strongest elements know how to bend and not break. Do you?

The Secret to Compromise

Instead of giving in, butting heads, or walking away, figure out that one specific thing you are so unwilling to let go of.

The 4-Word Fight Ender

The surprisingly simple question that can turn an argument into a constructive discussion.

It’s Not What You Say

When words get in the way, use your intuition and your body to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level.

What’s Your Fighting Style?

The way you start a fight says a lot about your relationship’s future, so when you come out swinging, keep it clean.

Little Lies, Big Damage

It’s the small daily omissions that erode a relationship. How I finally learned to show up  and tell the truth.

Claim Your Queer

Let’s face it—everyone wants something a little weird now and then.

The Foursome

In my open marriage, feelings of jealousy and rejection emerge in unexpected places, and point the way toward growth.

The Benefits of Hashing It Out

It’s not the most fun way to spend an evening, but the data is clear: Couples who argue are better off than those who never rock the boat.